February 14th, 2023 | Kate Wiggins
Noticing changes in your aging loved one is common but addressing those changes may cause stress for both you and them. Discussing changes in an individual’s behavior, appearance, health, etc. can be embarrassing for both parties. And, some may even be reluctant to listen to begin with as they fear losing their independence. Ironically, acknowledging these changes is a crucial first step in preserving the independence of an older adult.
Here are a few signs your loved one may need help:
If you notice a loved one showing one or more of these signs, don’t panic! It is time to discuss these changes with your loved one. Include others in the conversation who may assist with the care of your loved one. We know – this may sound difficult, but it doesn’t have to be.
Here are some suggestions for getting the conversation started:
If your loved one is resistant to the idea of getting help, don’t give up! The safety and well-being of your loved one needs to be at the forefront of any conversation. Remember, it is normal for individuals to be defensive if they feel challenged in any way. If there is not an immediate sign of danger to cause harm to themself or anyone else, try again. Sometimes a person will refuse care at first but over time they may accept help.
Here are a few tips to respond to a loved one’s refusal to accept help:
If your loved one continues to resist care, it may be time to seek help for yourself. Ask their doctor, clergy or other trusted outside person to step in and assist you. Sometimes a person from outside the family will have more influence.
Remember, your concerns may help address issues that interfere with your loved ones independence before a catastrophic event takes place. If you need assistance getting these conversations started, Just Call Us! Aging & In-Home Services is the premier resource for older adults, people with disabilities and family caregivers. Our Aging & Disability Resource Center provides streamlined access to information, care options, short-term case management, and benefits enrollment across a spectrum of long-term care services and supports.
